For the Mom Wondering ‘Why’?

god allow suffering

I have been prayerfully quiet around here lately.  I love this little blog and all of the years of encouragement and online fellowship it has provided.  Aside from starting my new dyslexia site, I have been waiting on God to show me what to do with this space.

Many of you are here because I write about having a large family. If you’ve heard me speak on this subject, you know that if you have 2 or more kids, you are outnumbered and therefore have a large family and all of the challenges associated with that!

God has been impressing upon me more and more that my family is my ministry – and therefore a priority in my life – and sadly there has been little time for blogging these days.  With 2 adult kids (and 2 grandkids!), two kids preparing to launch into the world and 4 kids still learning to read and write, my days are full!

This morning, I woke up early and could not sleep.  As is my morning routine, I sat with the Lord before hitting the to-do list.  Here is what God shared with me:

For The Mom Wondering Why

Many people question why God allows suffering in our lives. After all, if God is all-powerful (and He is) He could stop these troubles, right?

Here is what I have experienced in my life of following God for the past 20 years about difficulties and trials.

Human nature tends towards self-sufficiency. We take all the credit for every little success in our lives – attributing said success to our own strength and intelligence.

So often we misunderstand God. We know that He is strong and capable, even loving and kind. (Romans 5:8) We forget, however that He is God – the Creator. His strength and intelligence are beyond our comprehension – as is fitting for anyone claiming to be God, yes?

God said that all good things come from Him. (James 1:17) He said that we can do nothing apart from Him (John 15:5).

Yet, in our human nature, in our pride we walk around as if it is all us. I mean we all do it – it is in our nature to think of ourselves more highly than we should.

When we go through painful trials, God is calling us – trying to get our attention you could say. He desires that we seek Him and cry out to Him for wisdom and guidance – not to rely on our own strength and understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6).

I have experienced this so many times in my life. I’m going through a trial – either because of something stupid I’ve done or maybe for no known reason at all – and I get on my knees to inquire of God, my heavenly Father. It is through these times that God has revealed to me more of His nature, more of His faithfulness and strengthened my trust in Him.

There is nothing, and I mean NOTHING as powerful and exciting than walking hand-in-hand with your creator. Through these times I have come to know a depth of faith and a richness and meaning to life unlike I have ever known walking in my own strength!

If you are going through something difficult right now, pray and seek God, read the Bible and take the time to quiet your worried thoughts so you can listen to what God wants to say to you today.

God wants for you to know Him better, to have peace and to live life more abundantly. (John 10:10).

‘You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.’  Jeremiah 29:13

‘For I know the plans that I have for you’, declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not calamity to give you a future and a hope.’ Jeremiah 29:11

Read my story of faith here.  Do you need prayer?  I can be contacted here.  I would love to pray for you!

Marianne Sunderland

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  1. Marianne, I so appreciate your words here. I always find encouragement here, and encouragement to go to God. I will never forget four years ago stumbling upon your blog. I think I had googled ‘all of my children are dyslexic’ out of sheer frustration and found you! I had slowly come to the realization that all three of my older children were dyslexic and I strongly suspected our youngest (who will be starting kindergarten this year) was also dyslexic. I felt defeated, confused, and scared. I read post after post here at Abundant Living, called my husband in crying and said, “This woman has 7 dyslexic children!” You empowered me to continue teaching with passion and taught me to appreciate my kids’ learning differences. This week I found myself struggling, again, as my husband searches for a new job in a new city. Thank you for reminding me that I have a Creator who is with me through it all. You are truly a blessing in my life.

    • Marianne Sunderland says:

      It’s funny Kara. I had no intention of writing that post but felt compelled to write it after my morning devotion. It must have been for you! Thanks for sharing how the blog and my story have helped you. Now I am the one who is encouraged!

  2. Hi Marianna
    I too stumbled upon your blog a couple years ago-I don’t have dyslexics, but 4 with cognitive impairment, speech disabilities, and all adopted internationally-in a general sense, your blog speaks to all moms of special needs kiddos, and THAT has been a blessing to me, as there just aren’t many BTDT mamas who blog and have walked the road we find ourselves on. I struggle with discouragement and being overwhelmed CONTINUALLY, as this road He has called us to is SOOOOO hard, and I have 3 typical children that still need me too-and I just don’t have enough of ME to go around!!!
    I hope God leads you to continue to share your heart here-I check often, hoping for another bit of inspiration and encouragement
    BLessings on your new homeschool year

    • Marianne Sunderland says:

      Thank you for your kind words Chris. It is a hard road. Often when I write, I am writing to myself! Blogging has helped me a lot as a homeschool mom.

  3. Wow, what a powerful and inspiration post. Keep up the great content, love these posts and extremely heart-felt.

  4. I have definitely been asking “Why?” a lot so far this year. Your words were very encouraging to me. Just wanted to thank you!

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